You and your Significant Other (a survey)

How long have you and you significant other (SO) been together? (For those who broke up: how long were you together for? For off and on: what's the total time, not counting breaks?)

• I'm not with them yet.
• less than a month
• 2-6 months
• 6 months - a year
• a year - a year and a half
• a year and a half- 2 years
• 2 - 4 years
• 5 years +

so.... the actual status of your relationship?

• not together yet.
• dating
• dating on and off
• engaged
• married / civil union (I know they're not treated the same way, they are just the same option for the sake of this survey).
• divorced
• broken up
• involved with more than one person
• -other-

Where/how did you meet them?

Please select all that apply.

• childhood friends / met before middle school/junior high
• Met in middle school/junior high
• Met in high school
• Met in College / Trade school
• Met through work
• Met through friends
• Met though family
• Met on a random/chance meeting/through a serious of strange events
• Met through church (or religious meeting of any kind)

Is your relationship serious? (note for people involved with more than one person: your options have been moved to -other- in this question, for simplicities sake)

• What do people mean by that?
• of course, we are married / have a civil union
• of course, we are officially engaged
• yes, we are moving in together/ are putting legitimate plans to move in together into motion
• we just started dating so it's hard to tell.
• not really, I don't see myself staying with them forever
• sorta, we're dating to see how things go.
• I think it's serious...
• no, I can tell you right now that it's not a serious relationship.
• -other-

The orientation of your relationship is.... (I make no judgments)

• hetero (straight)
• homosexual (gay/les)
• Bisexual (I'm involved with males and females at this moment)
• -other-

Hypothetical question: Your SO moves, how would you handle it?

• We would deal with it as best we could, and would try to stay together.
• I don't think we would last through that.
• How should I know?
• This question is not hypothetical for me: we dealt with it, and are still together.

For people in LDR's (Long Distance Relationships) how did your relationship end up that way?

• I am not in an LDR
• We started out with the distance... we met online. (or some equivalent to this)
• We started out in the same area, be he/she/I had to move... so we dealt with it and stayed together.
• He/she/I travel(s) a lot.... so it's not always an LDR, they are home at times
• He/she/I travel(s) a lot... that's how we met.
• He/she/I joined the military...
• -other-

Ok, from here we start the personal sort of questions. They start with simple things, but go to get more personal. The option to not answer starts with the fourth question after this one. ready?

• wow. you weren't kidding about putting a warning.
• Duh, I'm still taking this survey.
• Why's it matter? it's not like you stopped making questions just because some people may not be ready.
• of course woman, this is the reason I'm taking the survey.

(ok, this question is strange and an has obvious answer for most people, but just bear with me. It has a purpose): Have you had the chance to be with your SO in person?

• duh/of course.
• yes, we are in an LDR, but we started out together, and we have visited.
• yes, we are in an LDR, but we have visited.
• no, our relationship has only been an LDR.
• not without a group of other people
• -other-

so, onto the not so strange questions... have you kissed your SO? (I know, lame question, but it's not a relationship survey without it, apparently..)

• not yet.
• yes.
• no.
• -other-

Have you said 'I love you' yet?

• no
• yes
• we've said our vows.
• not yet.
• almost...
• -other-

So, this is where things get personal: have you had sex with your SO?

• Yes
• No
• Not yet, we're building up to it.
• No, we're not married yet, and I want to save myself till then.
• No, he/she/I have an objection to it for some reason or other.
• I do not want to answer this.
• -other-

For those who have had sex with their SO, was/is it enjoyable?

• I have not had sex with my SO.
• yes, it was/is wonderful.
• yeah, but he/she/I could improve on things.
• not the first time, but it's enjoyable now.
• no, she/he/I was too nervous
• no, but it was our first time, maybe things will get better.
• no, and he/she/I never improved.
• It wasn't perfect at first, but it was fun to work out the kinks, and it's great now. (no pun intended)
• I do not want to answer this.
• -other-

Are you and your SO comfortable enough to talk about trying new things, or any fantasies you may have?

• No, it just hasn't come up yet.
• No, we do not talk about it.
• Yes, we know most, if not all, of the things the other wants to try.
• Yes, but some ideas make me/my SO uncomfortable. We're open enough with each other to discuss them.
• I talk about the stuff I want to try, but my SO has not mentioned theirs.
• My SO talks about the stuff they want to try, but I haven't mentioned mine.
• We've talked about some things.
• My SO and I have talked about it on occasion.
• No, we/he/she/I don't even have ideas like that. Nothing outside of what is normal.
• I do not want to answer this.
• -other-

Have you tried any of those ideas?

• We haven't even discussed it.
• We've discussed it, but that's it. / No, we haven't tried any.
• We've tried some ideas.
• We've tried the one's we're comfortable with.
• Yes, we try most, if not all, of our ideas.
• Yes, we even try the spontaneous ideas that come up in the middle of trying other ones.
• No, we/he/she/I refuse to try anything outside of the ordinary.
• I do not want to answer this.
• -other-

Do you think that spontaneity is good for a healthy and serious relationship?

• I don't get what people mean when they mention serious relationships. I mean, what's the difference?
• yes, I do.
• no, open discussion is the key.
• no, structure is the key.
• I think it's a combination of the three above that make a healthy, supportive relationship.
• It depends on the couple. Different things for different people.
• nope, people staying in their place is the key.
• -other-

This survey is coming to a close, so back to the basic questions until we get to the end: How old are you?

• 13 or younger.
• 14
• 15
• 16
• 17
• 18
• 19
• 20
• 21 or older.

Is there an age gap in your relationship? (I realize that the older a couple gets, the less age gaps matter, but hey.)

• No, we're within the same year. (a year's age gap at most)
• Not really. 2-3 years difference.
• 4-5 years difference.
• 5-7 years.
• 8-9 years.
• 10+ years.

This quiz ends here. Hope you enjoyed it.

• I did enjoy it.
• I like most of your quizzes and surveys, this isn't any different.
• it was alright.
• It sucked (haha, you're the one who took it)
• later, M3rcy.
• I love you (Just cause I will make my love take this. lol. This option is for him and him alone.)