Monogamy vs Non-Monogamy

Some feel that humans evolved to have non-monogamous lifestyles, and that monogamy is a purely societal construct, not our 'natural' state.

• I agree! Non-monogamy is our nature.
• I disagree. People are naturally monogamous.
• I have no real opinion one way or the other.
• I don't know enough about such issues to make an informed response.

Choose the attitudes that best reflect your opinion of non-monogamy.

Please select all that apply.

• It's great for some people, others want only one person.
• I think if you want more than one person you're greedy.
• Non-monogamous people just can't commit!
• Non-monogamy is how we're supposed to be. Monogamy is just a religious/societal/population control thing.
• I've never thought about it.
• Non-monogamous people are sluts and should be ashamed.
• Non-monogamous people are sluts - I love it!
• This goes against God/nature/logic!
• Non-monogamy is evil.
• Non-monogamy is natural.

Are you monogamous or non-monogamous?

• I am non-monogamous - I am in a relationship with more than one person in which everyone knows and accepts the situation.
• I'm non-monogamous - I'm cheating on my partner.
• I'm monogamous but I cheat on my partner anyway.
• I'm monogamous and my partner cheats on me but thinks I don't know it.
• I am monogamous - I have no partner but would only want one, and would only want them to want me.
• I am monogamous and in a monogamous relationship.
• I am single and really don't know.
• I am in a relationship and really don't know.
• I am in a monogamous relationship but I want more.
• I am in an open/non-monogamous relationship because my partner/s want it, but I wish I weren't.
• I am single and non-monogamous because, seriously, most people want monogamy (or SAY they do) so why risk my lifestyle by tying myself down to someone who just wants to shackle me? Sheesh!

What's your s-xuality? This question ONLY refers to s-xual activity, not love or personal identity.

• Straight - I only have s-x with people of the opposite physical gender.
• Bis-xual - I will have s-x with either gender.
• Biased bis-xual - I will have s-x with either but prefer one over the other.
• Gay/Lesbian - I will only have s-x with people of the same physical gender.
• Uncertain - I don't know where my s-xual boundaries lay in regards to who I would or would not have s-x with.
• None - I am asexual.

What's your love-tendency? This refers specifically to whom you feel you can be in a loving relationship with.

• Straight - I can only love the other gender.
• Bi - I can love anyone irrespective of gender.
• Gay/Lesbian - I can only love people of the same gender.
• Undecided - Yeah, dunno.
• Other - It really isn't as simple as that, yo.
• None - I cannot love.

What is your gender identity? This refers to the gender you identify as, irrespective of what gender you were born or happen to be now.

• Man - I am male.
• Woman - I am female.
• Intersex - I am both man and woman.
• Flux - I am both, neither and either, depending on how I'm feeling at any one time.
• Undecided - I am still figuring this out.
• I don't understand this question.
• None - I have no gender.

Do you think the answers you gave to the above three questions has an impact on whether you consider yourself to be monogamous or non-monogamous person?

• Yes, definitely.
• No, not at all.
• Maybe. Uhm. Yeah, maybe. Or maybe not.
• I think that my s-xual attraction makes a difference but my emotional attraction doesn't.
• I think my emotional attraction makes a difference but my s-xual attraction doesn't.
• Not really - I think my sense of jealousy/protectiveness/possessiveness/etc make much more of an impact.

If you fell in love with someone in a relationship already, would you consider trying non-monogamy?

• Yes, I'd give it a go. Cos I would do aaaaanything for loooove....
• No, absolutely not. It's me or them, baby.
• Maybe, depending on how I got along with their other partner/s.
• No, but I'd cheat with them.
• No, and I'd actively try and break them up so I could have my love all to myself.
• Yes, I'm in such a situation already.
• No, and I wouldn't even try. I'd just walk away because it's not worth the pain.
• Yes, but only if I were in a relationship with someone else too. Fair's fair.
• I cannot love, so the matter is irrelevant.

If you were in a non-monogamous relationship what would be the hardest thing for you to deal with?

• The jealousy.
• The time management.
• The s-x.
• The sleeping arrangements.
• Wondering how the hell I got in this kind of relationship when I'm monogamous!
• Keeping it secret.
• The matters of children.
• I wouldn't have any issue - I'd embrace it all.
• I have selected this response because I find the whole concept of being in such a relationship so repugnant/incomprehensible/evil/weird that I actually can't imagine it (or REALLY don't want to).

Is non-monogamy, in your opinion, all just about the s-x?

• No, it's about love. Not s-x at all.
• No, it's about love. AND s-x. Mmm, s-x.
• Yes, it's all about the s-x. Loving more than one person is an illusion but scr*wing more than one is a different matter.
• It's about all of those things that relationships are always about - love, s-x, compromise, hard work, connections...
• Non-monogamy is about greed, and is essentially evil.

Should people in non-monogamous relationships have children?

• Yes! Anyone should be permitted to have kids if they want.
• No! What an evil concept! You should be ashamed for even asking!
• No, because there are no ends of complications there. Friends, school, legal issues, custody battles if the relationship ends...
• Yes, because there's no end of complications in any family. Having more than two parents can be a great support.
• Yes. Having multiple adults caring for multiple children is how Homo sapiens has evolved.
• I am undecided.
• No, and I don't really have a reason. The idea just kind of creeps me out.

What did you think of this survey?

Please select all that apply.

• Interesting and thought-provoking!
• Stupid.
• Fun!
• Evil.
• There weren't enough questions.
• There were too many questions!
• I didn't understand the questions.
• Ehh. It was so-so.
• DUMB! STUPID! I mean, not one single question about vampires! What gives!