Just R.J. Rambling about insecurities :/
this is just an announcement of sorts, I guess, so rated A :)
well, see my problem might not seem that bad to anyone else, but I just wanted to get it out somehow. :( see, I go back to school on September 6th I think, and over the past 8 years of going to school, I've developed a record of being the 'Extremely random Tomboy nerd' who never does anything against the rules. (I have a really strong concience, so I can't break the rules without feeling bad about it.)
my problem stresses mostly on the tomboy part. Anyone who's gone to school with me, has never seen me with my hair up in a ponytail, pigtail, braids, etc. And they've never seen me in a skirt, and to top it off, in 4th, 5th, 6th, and 7th grade, I pretended I was allergic to the color pink. (XD wow R.J.)
And this year, for some reason, I'm starting to want to try these things. But, I'm worried that people wont accept the change. I know it's an irrational fear, but come on, I'm a teenager, who even acts like this much of a tomboy in front of her mom so even she thinks I'm a total tomboy who has no desire whatsoever to try it.
I dug myself into a deep hole, and I want to climb out, but I'm afraid that after all this time the sun will burn me (so to speak). So, should I go for it? I mean, it's gonna be tough, and embarrassing, but should I put myself out there? :( please be completely honest, it will impact me by the way you answer.
my problem stresses mostly on the tomboy part. Anyone who's gone to school with me, has never seen me with my hair up in a ponytail, pigtail, braids, etc. And they've never seen me in a skirt, and to top it off, in 4th, 5th, 6th, and 7th grade, I pretended I was allergic to the color pink. (XD wow R.J.)
And this year, for some reason, I'm starting to want to try these things. But, I'm worried that people wont accept the change. I know it's an irrational fear, but come on, I'm a teenager, who even acts like this much of a tomboy in front of her mom so even she thinks I'm a total tomboy who has no desire whatsoever to try it.
I dug myself into a deep hole, and I want to climb out, but I'm afraid that after all this time the sun will burn me (so to speak). So, should I go for it? I mean, it's gonna be tough, and embarrassing, but should I put myself out there? :( please be completely honest, it will impact me by the way you answer.
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I'd say give it a go. I understand your fear, I feared the same thing, but it's best to try new things and who cares if people don't like it? Your true friends won't care, they'll support you. Give it a try and maybe you'll like it! You'll be fine :)
R.j, life is full of trying new thing(: You don't have to be afraid of what other people think. You don't neccesarly have to wear pink but theres nothing wrong with doing you hair,make-up,short-shorts, or a skirt(:
It's natural to want to change sometimes. I'm was sort of a tomboy for a while and it feels nice to wear tights and stuff sometimes. You'd be surprise the first time you wear a skirt or your hair down someone probably will compliment you or say something like "wow you have your hair down". But once you start doing it nobody will even say anything. Defiantely go for it I'm sure you'll look really pretty!
CONFIDENCE RJ!!!!!!! That is the key to trying something new:) Go for it!
I think you should. Yeah, it might be hard for people to accept the change, but those who actually love you and care about you wont try to bring you down. Sometimes, you have to ignore what people will say to you or think about you. I hope this helps :)
Message me if you ever want to talk, I'll be glad to listen :)
~God bless
Hey don't be worried! Try it out! At my school we have a uniform and I wear skirts all the time but every time I wear a skirt people always say it's the first time they've seen me in a skirt and I'm just like *facepalm* And if I wear makeup people (meaning dude BFF) always freak out so I know what you mean xD It's nothing you can't handle though
If you even have the slightest feeling that you want to change, go for it. Cause if you don't, you'll regret it. If you respect yourself enough to do what you want and hold your head high when you greet your friends, then you'll do this. Because you want to. And if you don't go through with it, then you never really wanted it in the first place.
have confidence R.J. if you want to change then do whatever you want to do...please don't be worried. everything is going to be just fine. i think u should change if you want to....don't be nervous or afraid. try it out.
I highly doubt anyone will truely be against the idea. Why should they? No need to be the same old you if you don't want to, try something new. I'm the exact same way, but I truely do hate the color pink and only put my hair in a ponytail for sports still. You seem to have changed and you're a girl, it's not a bad idea to be a bit girly
Yeah!i think u should do what u want !dont b pressed by other people to brake the rules etc.i ve ben like that when some of my friends pressed me to brake the rules.then i refused and they didnt talk to me at all..so dont do smthng 4 others but 4 urshelf in order 2 be happy!all girls have worn a skirt!