i need help.....
i have a problem....
i need help! okay, so there is this boy (i dont want to say his name, so i will call him todd). Todd really likes me. Not that big of a deal, EXCEPT he
(a) follows me around like a puppy
(we live on the same street and he rides with my close friend and i to school. when school is done, we come home and he follows me into my house along with my friend whom i will call amy. whenever amy and i go somewhere, todd follows. i mean, hes my friend, but still! give me some breathing room!
(b) he makes comments
( like, "well she's pretty, not as pretty as sam, but pretty", ugh! i know you like me! dont push it! i dont like him that way though, and he knows it! why cant he keep his thoughts about me to himself!!!! i may sound mean, but i swear its getting annoying! he keeps saying those things, even though he knows i dont like him that way, i wish he would stop D:)
(c) i like someone else, whom i will call josh (not his real name jsyk)
todd knows too! i mean now everyone on my block knows except my dad! one time when todd, amy, and i were talking, we were talking about guys and girls and he was thinking of ways to be more like the guy i like! i want to tell him that even if he changes, i wont change my mind. i dont have the heart to. i want him to be my friend and i dont want anything to change.
(d) the guy i like....
well i like this guy, but i dont really know him. ive never really had a conversation with him, though i know his friends. i like his friends, their cool, but im too shy to say anything to him. he is super cute, but what do i say to him????? i have the same math, homeroom, and advisory as him, yet ive never spoken to him, besides to ask where someone sits. even if i had the nerve to talk to him, what would i say?? oh, hi, i like you, who do you like? we should sit together so i can stare at you....NOT. what the heck do i do????? can you please message me with ideas?!?!?! im stuck.
ps. im only 12, 13 this year, just so you know.
(a) follows me around like a puppy
(we live on the same street and he rides with my close friend and i to school. when school is done, we come home and he follows me into my house along with my friend whom i will call amy. whenever amy and i go somewhere, todd follows. i mean, hes my friend, but still! give me some breathing room!
(b) he makes comments
( like, "well she's pretty, not as pretty as sam, but pretty", ugh! i know you like me! dont push it! i dont like him that way though, and he knows it! why cant he keep his thoughts about me to himself!!!! i may sound mean, but i swear its getting annoying! he keeps saying those things, even though he knows i dont like him that way, i wish he would stop D:)
(c) i like someone else, whom i will call josh (not his real name jsyk)
todd knows too! i mean now everyone on my block knows except my dad! one time when todd, amy, and i were talking, we were talking about guys and girls and he was thinking of ways to be more like the guy i like! i want to tell him that even if he changes, i wont change my mind. i dont have the heart to. i want him to be my friend and i dont want anything to change.
(d) the guy i like....
well i like this guy, but i dont really know him. ive never really had a conversation with him, though i know his friends. i like his friends, their cool, but im too shy to say anything to him. he is super cute, but what do i say to him????? i have the same math, homeroom, and advisory as him, yet ive never spoken to him, besides to ask where someone sits. even if i had the nerve to talk to him, what would i say?? oh, hi, i like you, who do you like? we should sit together so i can stare at you....NOT. what the heck do i do????? can you please message me with ideas?!?!?! im stuck.
ps. im only 12, 13 this year, just so you know.
17 Comments
I've never had this problem. All the guys I like, don't like me.
well dont know if this guy likes me, cause the one i dont like likes me, and the one i never have had a conversation with i like. its kinda hard. sorry for the way you feel though :(
Message me!!! I'll be happy to listen whenever you need to rant.
I have never had this happen to me, so I don't know about it!! Sorry!!!
first u got to find an ice breaker, u no something to break through the barrier and talk about. and to do so it to notice stuff about him. for an example, if u notice that he has a... idk... um.. a super mario bros folder then talk about video games.
if u don't notice anything talkable, maybe listen into some of his conversations he has with his friends with out being noticed and next time u see him, ask him if he likes what ever they may have been talking about. don't ask right away
do you think you could message me with a few other ideas for talking to him, because i dont really know him or hang around his friends that much and.....ugh im just so stuck! my friend is on a cruise for 3 weeks and my other one well, she doesnt live that close.
if u ask right away he'll know that u were listening in. so if they were talking about the newest episode of a tv show bring it up ( Only if u know about it though! ) .
or u could bring up the subject of sports or video games. most guys are into that. u Ask him his fav team.
or bring up a subject that most people watch or like. such as a book, tv show or movie.
anything realy. after the ice is broken u probly won't have as much trouble. it'll get easyer. if u need any more help I'm here.
idk what to do about ur "puppy" friend though. I had a guy do that to me once and i never realy delt with it. i should of but I'm in a new school this school year...
it sounds like awesome advice, but i dont know how to make those comments to him. i mean, if i were him id get really creeped out if some stranger asked me what my favorite team was.
if theres a big sports game talk about it with ur friends but be close to him so he can over hear it. then finish the conversation with ure frinds and turn face to face with him. be like " oh hi ___, are u excited about the ___ game? " if he says some form of yes then u ask him who he wants to win.
and thats how u could go about doing that. :)
and if that works u can talk more about sports or bring up another subject. after a while u won't be so nerveus.
wow, your helping me all the time! thanks! sounds like good advice. 2 of my friends are in on the secret and one of my friends has a bf, the other a crush. maybe wel do something like this for her too! :)
aww todd sounds kinda nice, but annoying and it seems like he could be a bit embarrassing. no offence.
i bet josh isnt who u think he is... prob a d*ck. Like most guys, exept todd who sounds really sweet.
ps. im 12, turning 13 too!!
WEIRD. OKAY, maybe this isnt weird, but i just realised we did our ps. the exact same way.i guess loads of ppl rite ps like tht!
and hmmm i dunno, cos the ppl i like always seem to like me first and their friends tell me so i dont realy have to break the ice, or sumtimes the ppl i like are already my friends hin hint.
jj
ummm idk.
i would prob just talk to him with my friend there too...
And invaderbeth is right, i was gonna say that but i thought it would be too complicated