My Friend Needs Help (Bad) !!!
Please try and help, IDk what to say! D;
Here is her message and I quote.
"Well my friend called Leanne likes me as more than a friend and has always wanted to be like me. About a month ago she self harmed and I asked her why and she said cause I do it and that it's not a big deal and I told her that it is a big deal and she shouldn't do it just because I do it and that it's very serious and dangerous and she promised me that she would never do it again. Today I found out that she's done it again and she's copied me with how she did it and everything. The only thing that's different is where she's done it. It's quite deep and she's done it from her wrist right down to her elbow ontop of her arm so that she's only just missed the veins. She used a pen lid and it looks like she's scratched it and carried on until it's gone deep. I never told her about my self harming or how I did it or anything. She must have been listening in to me and my social worker about just over a month ago. I've told her that she needs to go to the doctors but she won't. She said that she wants to be like me. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to make her see sense or anything. I feel like it's all my fault. I mean maybe if I didn't do it then she wouldn't do it and I guess I didn't hide my scars very well. I just want to help her and make her see sense but I don't know how to do that or what to do."
Not good huh? My friend is going through a serious bad chapter in her life causing her to self harm, now she has a girl wanting to be with her who thinks it is cool to self harm like she does. I have told her to tell that girl that it is not good, and it is not something you want to get into, and that she is straight and does not want to go out with her. She has told the girl all the advice I gave her, but from what I have heard she is very clingy and stubborn and does not listen.
What should I tell her?
"Well my friend called Leanne likes me as more than a friend and has always wanted to be like me. About a month ago she self harmed and I asked her why and she said cause I do it and that it's not a big deal and I told her that it is a big deal and she shouldn't do it just because I do it and that it's very serious and dangerous and she promised me that she would never do it again. Today I found out that she's done it again and she's copied me with how she did it and everything. The only thing that's different is where she's done it. It's quite deep and she's done it from her wrist right down to her elbow ontop of her arm so that she's only just missed the veins. She used a pen lid and it looks like she's scratched it and carried on until it's gone deep. I never told her about my self harming or how I did it or anything. She must have been listening in to me and my social worker about just over a month ago. I've told her that she needs to go to the doctors but she won't. She said that she wants to be like me. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to make her see sense or anything. I feel like it's all my fault. I mean maybe if I didn't do it then she wouldn't do it and I guess I didn't hide my scars very well. I just want to help her and make her see sense but I don't know how to do that or what to do."
Not good huh? My friend is going through a serious bad chapter in her life causing her to self harm, now she has a girl wanting to be with her who thinks it is cool to self harm like she does. I have told her to tell that girl that it is not good, and it is not something you want to get into, and that she is straight and does not want to go out with her. She has told the girl all the advice I gave her, but from what I have heard she is very clingy and stubborn and does not listen.
What should I tell her?
25 Comments
to freakin go a way
idk tell her that sometimes self harm can kill u i use to self harm but i stopped.
she was talking to me about that to, i told her everything i could think of but she had tried it already
I know, but that other girl doesn't listen!
Tell her to stop. Its not good to self harm yourself and she has no idea what she's doing. She should be herself and not be like someone else. Being yourself is the best quality anyone has.
Thats true, I'll tell her that.
I use to self harm myself. I did the thing that made me happy the most which was singing. Tell her to do the thing that makes her happy the most and she could stop. About her friend tell her that, she should try to get everything she can that she could self harm with.
I use to self harm myself. I did the thing that made me happy the most which was singing. Tell her to do the thing that makes her happy the most and she could stop. About her friend tell her that, she should try to get everything she can that she could self harm with.
Great idea, I could tell her to find a new hobby, extra cirricular activity or something good to do to make her happy and get her mind off of it.
Tell her she shouldn't self harm its not good, trust me. I am going though the same problem of self harming, its not good. If she has a Quibblo account tell her to pm me or I'll pm her. I here to help!
She does, her name is mileyraynoah, maybe you guys can talk and help each other out.
tel soeone other then them. get them some help even if they say no.
For me the reason i did it once was because i felt so alone and like no on cared and i had no feelings, i just stopped caring so i did it to try and feel again. Maybe all she needs is a bit of encouragement, a night out go play mini golf or do something together so that she knows she is not alone. instead of giving her angry attention, give her good attention. after all, all she wants is for some one to notice her.
i know u think this will be very hard, but since she copies u, the best thing is to not self harm, find another way to solve ur pain through a tough chapter
This isn't me! This is my friend's problem she is having with another girl.